SSP10: A Conversation with Tim Kahn about Helping Families of Children and Teens with Sexual Behavior Problems

Timothy J. Kahn is the author of Pathways, Safer Society’s bestselling treatment workbook for adolescents who have sexually offended. To help parents cope with the issue of children with sexual behavior problems, Tim wrote Healthy Families, a book that is also among our bestselling titles.

In this episode, listen to Tim talk about:

  • why he wrote Healthy Families
  • how he uses it in his own practice
  • how Healthy Families helps parents understand the assessment and treatment process, answers their questions, and provides emotional support

Be sure to leave us your comments on this podcast episode and suggest questions that Tim Kahn might answer in the future.

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  1. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this episode. I wish I had found it a year ago. As a parent dealing with this issue currently, my husband and I have had very little support. No books were suggested, no groups, forums, interviews, nothing was recommended by the court system as to how to work through this as a parent. Here are my questions: Why is it not the standard practice to give these types of resources to families? I would like to hear from parents who have struggled through this and come out the other side. How does one handle dealing with the other families that might be involved? Why would we be having to go through the court system when we are doing everything a prosecutor would want us to do anyway? How do I explain to my kid why we reported him? This has shown our teen that when one does the right thing and tells the truth, situations get worse and worse.

    Thank you so much for this episode. I just ordered Mr. Kahn’s book and I am so thankful for the kind, understanding words.

    -KB

  2. KB,

    I am glad you found the podcast helpful! I think you can tell your child that every state has a mandatory reporting law, so no matter where you went for help, someone would eventually file a report. By filing the report yourself, the authorities have greater respect for you trying to do the right thing, and they feel less need to step in and file charges. By doing everything professionals recommend, the prosecutor will likely see that eventually, and some plea reductions are certainly possible. However, remember that the prosecutors will talk with the victim and victim’s parents, and that will play some role in the eventual charging decision. With respect to how you deal with the other families, sometimes your child will be ordered not to have any contact with the victim or their family, but as parents you may not have the same restriction. It is sometimes a good idea to reach out to the victim’s parents, especially if you know them, and tell them what you are doing to get help for your child, and ask them what would be helpful for them. Best wishes as you go through this process.

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